Making Peace with My Process

I am fortunate enough to be surrounded by amazing people in my personal and professional lives. Writers who produce high-quality books at a Patterson-like pace. Consultants who develop Ted Talk like workshops and speeches. Friends who are able to spontaneously reach out and connect with others better than those with PR teams. I feel so blessed.

And sometimes, I feel inadequate.

Okay, maybe I drift into feelings of inadequacy more often than I would like.

Here's what I've come to discover, though: my process is different than the people I mentioned above. Not better, not worse, just different. I don't write at the furious pace some of my author friends muster. That just isn't how I work. Could I be more efficient and produce more than I current produce - yes. But will I ever produce 5+ books every single year? Probably not.

When it comes to speaking, I am good - and while I might not spend the copious amounts of time my friends spend on their preparation, I know my talents in this area are strong and I am happy with my results. Could I develop even better ways to reach my audience - absolutely. Do I work on that regularly - of course. Will my process mirror some friends of mine? Nope. Their process is not my process. And that is fine.

With relationships, I have come to terms with the ups and downs of my introversion. I know when I can reach out and connect, and I know when I need to hide. I have learned to manage my intensities and reel in my expectations of others when needed. Will I be as adept as some of my more extroverted friends at the art of social connections - nope. Does that matter? Not really. My process is my own.

Ultimately, life is not a race. It's about discovering YOUR path, YOUR authenticity. It's about embracing everything it means to be you and pushing forward.

So, I may have had a ridiculous dry spell with my fiction. Coming back to writing may have been really hard for me. But it is all just part of my process. And I embrace it fully.

Do you embrace your process?


  1. Great post Christine. Thank you. This really resonates with me. Reading that someone else has similar "differences" helps me feel a little less inadequate. You are an inspiration.

    1. Thank you! This is just something I struggle with too. So glad you found this inspirational

  2. I love the title of your post, "Making Peace with Your Process." A tall order and one I've struggled with my entire life. And something I chide myself over every single day. I need several "me's" to take care of all the hats I wear and those hats often interfere with the way I'd like to conduct my writing life. Thank you for this!

    1. You are so welcome. I think most of us creative types have wrestled with at least some aspect of this on a regular basis!

  3. I think we sometimes tend to compare ourselves to others to define ourselves and we miss the beauty of the fact that we are different. We all have strengths and part of our journey is finding and celebrating them. I struggle too with trying to live up to what I think others want from me or see in me, so I can definitely relate.


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