I am fortunate enough to be surrounded by amazing people in my personal and professional lives. Writers who produce high-quality books at a Patterson-like pace. Consultants who develop Ted Talk like workshops and speeches. Friends who are able to spontaneously reach out and connect with others better than those with PR teams. I feel so blessed.
And sometimes, I feel inadequate.
Okay, maybe I drift into feelings of inadequacy more often than I would like.
Here's what I've come to discover, though: my process is different than the people I mentioned above. Not better, not worse, just different. I don't write at the furious pace some of my author friends muster. That just isn't how I work. Could I be more efficient and produce more than I current produce - yes. But will I ever produce 5+ books every single year? Probably not.
When it comes to speaking, I am good - and while I might not spend the copious amounts of time my friends spend on their preparation, I know my talents in this area are strong and I am happy with my results. Could I develop even better ways to reach my audience - absolutely. Do I work on that regularly - of course. Will my process mirror some friends of mine? Nope. Their process is not my process. And that is fine.
With relationships, I have come to terms with the ups and downs of my introversion. I know when I can reach out and connect, and I know when I need to hide. I have learned to manage my intensities and reel in my expectations of others when needed. Will I be as adept as some of my more extroverted friends at the art of social connections - nope. Does that matter? Not really. My process is my own.
Ultimately, life is not a race. It's about discovering YOUR path, YOUR authenticity. It's about embracing everything it means to be you and pushing forward.
So, I may have had a ridiculous dry spell with my fiction. Coming back to writing may have been really hard for me. But it is all just part of my process. And I embrace it fully.
Do you embrace your process?